All relationships have ups and downs
When things are going well, we can feel loved and cared for, supported, important, secure, happy and content. These are emotions which can help us feel connected to our partner.
When things aren’t going quite so well, the opposite can be said. We can feel unimportant, unloved, unsupported, insecure, fearful that the relationship may end. We can feel isolated, very alone and find it difficult to concentrate on tasks at home or in the workplace. The feeling of being disconnected from our partner can play havoc with our emotions.
I am here to support you and help you work towards improving your relationship.
What I can help with
Relationships can be hard.
Maybe you feel your partner is constantly critical of you; that you can never get things right. Maybe there is anger, blame, defensiveness or coldness in your relationship. Maybe you feel your partner completely shuts you out emotionally especially when you need love and reassurance. Perhaps you are constantly arguing over the same things. Maybe you do not know how to fix conflict with your partner and want to avoid another fight so shut down emotionally and physically withdraw.
So many things in life can put pressure on our relationships, from minor misunderstandings to issues such as illness, parenting, work, finances, infidelity, sexual intimacy, family or betrayal to name a few.
Couples counselling can help show you both how to identify what you need from your relationship and how to reach out and connect with your partner to get these needs met.
If you have any questions, or would like to arrange an initial appointment, please contact me.
The initial session is a chance for us all to get to know each other and explore what you would both like to work on or resolve during therapy. You can ask any questions, find out how the couples counselling process works and gauge how you feel about working with me. There is no pressure to commit to couples counselling if it doesn’t feel right for you.
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a systematic, well researched therapy which helps us understand how and why relationships go wrong and how we can effectively resolve them. It is one of the leading forms of couples therapy which has research and outcome data supporting it. Research studies find that after 12-20 sessions, 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery, and 90% of couples show significant improvement.
In couples counselling I work using the EFT model and if you would like to find out more about how EFT can help to improve your relationship, please contact me.